What is the Sauce?

Not usually! The Sauce is a space for people of all relationship configurations. You can come alone, with a partner, or with friends. Occasionally, I offer special events where you must come with a partner or buddy, but that is not typical. While the majority of people come to the Sauce alone or with friends, it’s not a singles or hook-up scene. 

For the 2026-27 season, the Sauce is expanding into new venues with more unique offerings! Each venue will have its own layout, but you can always expect high-quality production and lots of intentional ways to meet people, connect, have fun, and learn about yourself. 

The Sauce is a PG-13 event that encourages flirting, sensual connection, and consensual edge-pushing. While some folks go deep with one person, it’s more commonly a social event where people enjoy exchanges with multiple groups or partners throughout the night.

While the Sauce does offer deeper and more private events, public parties are sexy parties—not sex parties. This means:

• No exposed genitals—bottoms of some kind must stay on at all times
• No touching genitals with hands, faces, or mouths, even through clothing—consensual bumping and grinding is fine

The other rules of the Sauce are:

• No intoxication—this is a sober event
• Increase your consent practices with strangers. This means no touching, grabbing, surprising, or assuming a level of intimacy that doesn’t exist with people you don’t know. 
• At our topless-optional event, an exposed chest is not consent for touch

We go over all these rules at our opening circle!

The Sauce is a Santa Cruz event with lots of locals that is increasingly expanding to the greater Bay Area community. There are partner dancers and kinksters, Tantra folks, college students, curious people who want to get off the couch, and people who’ve never done anything like the Sauce before.

The party is very equal when it comes to masculine and feminine energies. While it’s not a queer-centric event, there is usually a strong queer and trans contingent. Being a small-town Santa Cruz dance event, the space is mostly white, though as we grow this is changing.

While plenty of 20-somethings and folks over 50 come to the event, the bulk of attendees are in their 30s and 40s.

The Sauce aims to provide a spectrum of options for attendees, from casual to deeper levels of engagement and risk-taking. It is a safer space—but no large party that openly explores erotic energy can be truly safe. Instead, as a community, we aim to take measured risks, reduce the worst kinds of harm, and provide repair and accountability when harm occurs.

CONSENT CONTAINER

The Sauce offers a party experience that is more conscious than the bar scene but also riskier than your typical ecstatic dance or yoga class. We come together to explore erotic energy and push edges in the community.

You can view our evolving consent policy here and check out (or fill out) our incident report form here if you feel your consent was violated at an event or beyond.

WAYS TO OPT-IN AND OUT

I am committed to offering as many ways as I can to opt in and out of activities, allowing you to customize your unique experience at each event.

At this event, you get to learn about and practice consent and agency, which is the only way any of us get better at it!

I instruct guest workshop leaders to provide clarity on what an activity will entail and multiple ways to engage at various levels of intimacy, when possible.

SUPPORT

There will be designated people throughout the event who are there to help you. Whether you have a question, need assistance, want help navigating a situation, or simply need a discreet person to turn to, they’re there for you.

At every event, we have a dedicated queer advocate on staff to handle gender- and LGBTQ+ related Angel needs.

The Sauce offers a snack luck table where folks bring yummy finger food to share. While there will be snacks to keep you going throughout the night, you will likely want to eat dinner beforehand.

This is a sober event. No alcohol or other drugs. This is due to the edgy, authentic nature of the event.

Most Sauce events are closed-container based on our values of group cohesion, ongoing erotic education, and safer spaces. For these reasons, the event always starts with an opening circle. The workshops are vital to cultivating a community with more skill and care—and this is what allows us to go deeper.

For these reasons, sorry, you can not come after the doors close.

The Sauce is hosted by me, Bez Stone, and I serve as your Pleasure Captain for the evening. I curate unique guest teachers, artists, musicians, and other leaders to offer our community their talents. No two Sauces are the same.

I’m a writer and certified sex and relationship coach. Ten years ago, I stumbled down the path of reclaiming my sexual fulfillment after my marriage fell apart. Now I’m passionate about providing opportunities for erotic expansion and deeper self-knowledge in the context of community. I have given a TEDx talk on female orgasm and done a stand-up comedy piece about squirting. I’m equal parts MILF and mystic, revering the vulnerability of erotic expression while also reveling in the raunchy, ridiculous, and comical aspect of connection. 

If you want to apply to work-trade, lead a workshops or pop-up experience, or offer your music, please contact Bez Stone here via email, here view Facebook messenger, or here via Instagram.